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A Letter To My Defiant and Brilliant Child

Hello sweet child. I am writing you this letter today because I walked out on you and everyone yesterday, and I want you to know why. I want you to look back on that night and understand it was because I love you so much. I walked out the door, and I kept walking because I needed to breath and think about why we were butting heads. See, my precious, you are everything to me. You made me a mother. We aren’t seeing eye to eye right now, and I am wracking my brain and reading books to understand you better. I want you to know how special you are. You are incredibly smart. Your mind races from one idea to the next, and you put together the mysteries of the world in the most beautiful, philosophical theories. Your appetite for fun, adventure and danger are insatiable, and sometimes I’m…

5 Unconventional Indoor Activities For Busy Toddler Boys

After the holidays, we find that the new toys become old, the busy schedules fall silent, and all the holiday activities have been done and enjoyed. Its still cold, wet and not friendly outside. We get cabin fever faster than I can poor my coffee, so out of sheer desperation, I’ve come up with some fun and light-hearted indoor activities my boys love! My Top 5 Unconventional, Indoor Activities For Busy Toddlers: Pillow Fight: This really ends up being a pillow attack on myself. The boys love playing on the bed, throwing the pillows around and basically getting to show me their muscles and strength by nailing me in the face. The best part about this game is they really get some energy out. That is pretty much the goal with every activity: make them tired. You might also like: How I am Teaching My Toddler to Read Pizza Pizza!…

Raising Boys to be Brothers and Learning What Brotherly Love Is

We all know the book, Where The Wild Things Are. The imaginary, monster/adventure world describes the mind of a boy almost perfectly. They are adventure-seeking, monster-loving, little kings. They want to fight, take charge and beat things up. Boys are competitive little animals, and it’s not necessarily natural for them to be loving and kind to their brother(s). Brotherly love is a unique concept, but I’ve learned some things that help me understand and cultivate a loving relationship between my two boys. Tackling Is Love: Think of tackling, shoving or karate chopping like hugs and kisses for brothers. At first, it looks like it could be a knock out session, but there’s no anger. There is pure love and play. They absolutely love wrestling each other. Because they are still little, they haven’t learned appropriate boundaries to avoid someone (the little one) getting hurt. He usually cries for a second,…

How To Teach Your Child To Play On Their Own and Save Your Sanity

There was a day when I would play Thomas the Train, orchestrate a major Dinosaur hunt, and race cars all over the house. I would narrate detailed stories and games, bringing my boys (mostly the oldest) into extravagant, make-believe worlds. Until, it had to stop. I didn’t realize the amount of dependence/need I was promoting. I decided to stop playing with them when it hit me that I was cultivating an environment  where their imagination needed my imagination, and I was tired. I’m so happy I transitioned out of lead – player and into narrator, but it was a bit difficult. I felt so guilty saying no, then watching Benjamin struggle to know what to do with himself and his toys. The real ticker for me was knowing how much joy he got from our play time together. He was so happy. Don’t forget to pin this! But, the reality…

3 Inappropriate Realities of Being a Boymom

“Another boy?!” “Were you hoping for a girl??” “Are you gonna try again for a girl??” These are the questions I get asked everyday as we navigate through our activities. Our pictures show the beautiful glimpses of our life. The pretty, happy moments that are quite sporadic in between the messy toilets, batman pajamas, runny noses, fingers in noses and hands in pants. Oh the joys of being a boymom! We clean up well for social events, but there are definitely  confessions I can share. Make sure to pin me! Here are my three reasons you might be pulling your hair out: 1. Underwear Unwanted: Boys do not like underwear, or pants for that matter. They naturally find it more satisfying to throw their pants and undies to the wind whenever outside – not aware of any sort of indecent exposure laws. As soon as I let the boys outside,…

Vapors of Summer and Seasons of Change

We’ve gone from 90 degree days here to cozy, rainy ones in a week. I’m 33 weeks pregnant, and the new season of fall is quickly approaching, so symbolic of a new season of motherhood that is creeping my way. Being a mother of two toddlers is a lot. Being a mother of two toddlers while pregnant is a lot. Soon, I will have two toddlers and an infant in my arms. It feels like the days are creeping by at a snail pace. I want so badly to not be pregnant anymore, have my baby safe in my arms, and to feel like I can move and run again. Yet, I forget to ask myself, “am I ready for the seasons to change?” At the first couple days of fall-like weather, we welcome the boots, jackets and cozy cookies, but are we really ready for the swimming, sandy toes,…