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Here’s A Truth That Shocked Me. You Need To Hear It Before The Holiday Weekend

“I was sitting in a deep-seated, leather chair in a place I’d only been a handful of times. I wasn’t yet familiar with the office, but I was comfortable enough to let some feelings and thoughts roll out. I was struggling to recount some stressful events in my life, when the counselor looked at me and said something that blew my mind. I wanted to knock some sense into him, but I was just speechless. He said, “you’re a perfectionist.” Time stopped. I was shocked and almost offended because it sounded so wrong. I contemplated walking straight out the door without a word. Um, what? Pretty sure I need a new counselor, I thought quickly. Didn’t I just tell him how frustrated I was with how not perfect things were? Well, I guess he hasn’t seen my car. I should show him all the crumbs hiding in the car seats and…

This One Date Night Fail Taught Me More About Being a Mother Than All Three Boys

Boy were we excited. This was a date night we looked forward to for weeks. It was to celebrate many things; a birthday, a new baby, the holidays, remodels and our year of working on our marriage and finding a deeper love in our home. We were ready to pretend we weren’t parents for just a minute. Little baby was along for the ride, but he’s a good baby who sleeps quietly, and compared to the obnoxious toddlers, that’s nothing. I found this fabulous romper to wear. Full of sparkles and lace because all of that is so anti-mommy, and that’s what I was gonna be that night. Not a mom, but a girl dressed up ready to hit the town. Years if motherhood should have given me some inclination that things might not go as planned. I was too excited to give that inkling even a moments notice. We…

Ultra Cool Gear For Moms and Babies with Budgets in Mind

I love a pretty baby/child item. We have so much gear to carry, haul and manage that it makes things easier if everything just looks pretty and stylish. I feel like the prettier something is, the less I see the mess! I have a great list of my favorite baby gear and mama gear pieces that are totally modern, sleek and functional! Most are very affordable, and will absolutely make your life easier with functionality. Here’s my compilation of my favorite mommy gear must-haves to make you feel like an uptown designer mom, even when you have spit-up on everything, blow outs and jelly stains. Gadikat Diaper Backpack Dani Collection Grey Kiki and Lu Designs Moskka Travel Bag Baby Bjorn Elbini and Co Hipseat Multi Carrier Urban White Lillebaby 360 Ergonomic Baby Carrier Original Black The First Years Close and Secure Sleeper 3 in 1 Diaper Bag,…

Introducing Guest Post Series: There’s a Purpose For Your Pain

I am very excited to introduce this series, and host some fabulous guest posters, who will be sharing their stories of pain and joy. Check put my video below for a personal introduction 🙂 Joyful Messes is more than just a mom blog. My vision is to share encouraging stories of pain, growth, learning and struggles where those immersed in the difficult times have emerged with a deep-rooted joy. Life is messy. Mommy hood is messy. Marriage is messy. We’ve all had our moments, and to be vulnerable enough to share the dark times takes incredible courage. I really look forward to sharing the amazing stories, and you can look for them every Monday starting the first week of December. I hope to kick the Holiday season off with pure encouragement to those who need it!

Perfectionism is a B, But I’ll Tell You Why You’re Perfect

Perfectionism. A sneaky little B- that looks oh so appealing and attractive, yet causes so much destruction. Its tricky. Perfectionism  can enter your mind in the form of images you create, or saw and pursue. The pursuit, the dream the taste of having the perfect body the perfect nursery decor, the spotless home…I’m sure you’ve jumped in the perfectionism limo at least once. I know I have. But, we forget it’s unattainable. We fixate on the perfect picture in our mind, then hit the ground hard when, after trying and trying, we can’t get there. Something un-perfect, or messy gets in the way. Did you know that perfectionism is a form of distraction from our insecurities or pain? Yep, it means you’re semi-screwed up. No, not really, but it stems from pieces of your soul you haven’t yet been able to heal. How do I know? I’ve spent over a year…

Becoming a Mom of 3, Life with Two Toddlers and a Baby Guest Post!

On October 21st at 1:10pm, I joined the mom-of-three club. Since that day, I’ve graduated from hospital undies. I started putting yoga pants on, rather than pajama pants. I haven’t quite excelled into my new role as mom-of-three yet. Transitioning into life at home with two toddlers and a baby is a process I’m going through, with no real “I’ve got this down!” moments. (Hopefully soon?!) The older boys are loving this new phase in life. They are running around naked and crazy half the time. It’s difficult to dress them with one hand while nursing the baby in the other. As soon as I sit down to nurse, food starts soaring back and forth, laundry baskets get dumped, pillows go flying, and they literally have the time of their lives. Yeah, I’m navigating through the war zone in survival mode, driven by instinct…. Read More over at Tacoma Working…

5 Ways I’m a “Bad Mom” Everyday

I start my mornings with a Starbucks and a Spinach Feta Wrap about 7 am. Then, I do an hour of Pilates and cardio, followed by thirty minutes of Booty Barre. Feeling super toned and ballerina-like, I pop my favorite champagne and slide into an essential-oil-infused bubble bath. This is where I do my best writing and catch up on all my social media feeds. Don’t worry, I have the children sitting with a box of Cheezits each in front of their favorite YouTube shows. The Playlist lasts 5 hours – Perfect. I also just left the jug of apple juice in front of them in case they get thirsty. The 5 Best Foods To Lose The Baby Weight and Pump Up Your Milk Supply Increase Your Milk Supply Overnight 3 Tricks I Use To Lose The Baby Weight That Worked Three Times Now Back to my day: My tub…

Dear Happy Mom, I’m With Ya

I love being a mom. I wouldn’t ask for anything  else. I don’t love wiping bottoms, poopy  accidents in the tub, police car sirens at 6 am or cold coffee left in the microwave for hours. I could do without those things if possible, but I wouldn’t trade it for being a mom. I share my morning coffee with an infant in my arms, a police car on my lap, a firetruck to my right and two, wild, bed – head toddlers crawling on me. It’s not quite peaceful, but it is laugheable. Of course, there are days we want to escape to a hotel room, order room service and binge on reality TV for the sake of sanity. But, there are a lot of laughs and giggles that I live for. I am really happy being a mom, and I find true joy fulfilling my role. I love making…

Baby’s Birth Story and His Name

First off, if you’re reading to find out the baby’s name, I give you permission to skip to the end of the post. The rest that follows is how he raced into the world painfully and just in time for my doctor to deliver 🙂 I rolled my big belly over to the clock: 3:32 am. My eyes were wide open, and I was patiently waiting to feel anything. Any twinge that might indicate baby is coming. Nothing. I was three days post due date. It was early on a Friday morning. I decided to pray. My obgyn, who’s delivered all my babies, my sister’s babies, and his dad delivered my sisters and I, was heading out of town later that day. He NEVER goes out of town. I wanted him to be there, but I didn’t want to induce the baby. So, I prayed for God to send the…

How Do I Teach My Kids Patience, When I’m out?

40 weeks pregnant PLUS 2 DAYS! Seriously, aren’t third babies supposed to come early?? I’m walking a tight line towards being induced at this point because my patience is shot. Then, this morning, adding to my feelings of completely being done, both the boys were in some sort of mood and didn’t want to play with the kids at the YMCA. Then it got worse, I went in to play with them for a bit, and help encourage them to find some fun toys and kids, and they were grumpy and totally not into it. Then, out of no where, a crying little boy glued himself to me and I couldn’t put him down. He wanted me to walk around and hold him. “Um, I don’t work here. I just want get on the elliptical and try to get this over-sized baby out, and now I can’t put this poor…