Oh gosh, I hate to admit it, but sometimes my little blessings seriously seem to turn into screeching on a chalkboard. The whining. Crying. “Mom! Mama?!” On repeat quickly bubbles frustration in my throat. I look at these two little blue-eyed angels and think, “I can’t believe another one is coming…” I walk to the dryer to pull out the clothes needing to be folded, or at least shoved in their appropriate hiding space, and I hear lots of giggling and jumping in our bedroom. Hands full, socks dropping into the black hole they dissappear too, I yell, “Benjamin! Jack! Are you guys throwing all the pillows off the bed?!” I swear, they were just outside, when did they get in there???.
I finally decided I was going to make the bed. We have a beautiful bedroom, and I want to appreciate it and have it look nice, so that morning I made the bed, and I almost took a picture to post for everyone to see, but of course someone needed their bottom wiped immediately.
12.3 seconds later, my pinterest – worthy bedroom looked like a pillow war zone, and only the mattress pad was left on the bed. I sighed, and watched how excited they were jumping from pillow to pillow. “That’s my que we’ve got to get going,” I thought, as I fought back more frustration. Ugh.
It these moments, compiled with the constant needs, destruction, whining and tthen – some that can quickly bring us to thoughts like, “Oh my gosh these little monsters!” But really, it’s not them. It’s us.
I am the one who is frustrated with two toddlers behaving perfectly normal. I am the one in control of my feelings and reactions to their behavior. They are never monsters, and really actually behave really well for their age, but it’s my mind that goes to a place it shouldn’t. These are my beautiful blessings, my life and my absolute pride. The juxtaposition that can happen in motherhood is insane really. We love them so much, yet can’t tolerate another minute the next. Oh the joys!
This is where I am no longer mothering in the spirit. We are to do all tthings in the spirit. Take for example the classic Mary and Martha story. Jesus wasn’t actually upset with Martha for the work she was doing, but it was her spirit while she was working. Martha’s job of preparing the meal needed to be done, but her spirit while doing it was poor. She was too concerned and frustrated with what Mary wasn’t doing, to be joyful and happy for the work she was doing! What a challenge at times. To find at least two, semi-matchong socks in the spirit. To clean up all the spaghetti noodles off the floor by hand because the vacuum cleaner isn’t getting them in the spirit. Is that even possible? According to Jesus it is.
He says to Martha, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed – or indeed only one! Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10: 38-42
Martha was upset, worried, anxious and critical of Mary. These are not the fruits of the spirit. In Paul’s letter to the Galatians, he sums up the fruits of the spirit, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Galatians 5:22-23
If our children are our blessings and rresponsibility from Him, we are to work with them and take care of them in the spirit, despite what they do or say, THAT IS OUR CHALLENGE! The purpose is not to make our children perfect, or wait for that day to come, but to make ourselves perfect in the spirit despite the chaos that surrounds! How will we know when we are achieving this? When we have sel-control and we don’t yell. When we laugh with our goofy children and their ideas. When we gently guide them rather than scold them. Everyday we have an opportunity to practice being in the spirit while in the middle of chaos, and that is our position, given to us the moment our children arrive, not for us to be better, but to glorify God and the Holy Spirit.
“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.” Romans 8:26
The spirit is here to help us in our daily weakness, and also help us pray for the strength we need. Sometimes we don’t even know what to pray for for help, but the Spirit is here to comfort and bring fruit to the dirty, messiness of #momlife.
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